Do you feel like you can’t get your head straight? You know you’re supposed to do something but you can’t seem to do it. The more you push yourself, the more you feel the resistance. As a result, you get overwhelmed which may lead to burnout. In this blog post, we will discuss why this happens and how to refocus your life.
There are a lot of reasons why you get unfocused – or lost even. It might be because you’re not really interested in what you’re doing. It can also be because of the different distractions around or within you. Or maybe you have mental resistance, which happens when you’re about to do something new.
It is good to know why but one thing is sure – it is normal to get lost sometimes. You can’t stay focused all the time.
Tips on How to Refocus Your Life.
When you’re ready to refocus your life again, here are 8 tips you can follow. These will help you get on track again.
1. Give yourself time and space.
First of all, be kind to yourself. As mentioned, you can’t always stay focused. If you keep pushing yourself, this will turn into burnout.
So, take a rest and give yourself some time and space. This prepares and energizes your mind and body for the future. And when you do feel like refocusing your life again, take your time and space. Don’t force it immediately.
2. Do a brain dump.
Sometimes, it is hard to refocus because there are a lot of things on your mind. When this happens, it’s quite challenging to sort them out.
The best way to organize your thoughts is to dump them all out by writing them all down. It is easier to categorize them when you see them.
So, get a piece of paper and a pen. Then, write everything down. Your thoughts, plans, feelings, etc. It may be random or not. Once you empty down your brain, you now have space to think clearly about what’s important to you.
3. List down all your priorities.
After you do your brain dump, you’ll realize that not everything on your list is important. I bet that there are a lot of irrelevant plans or projects to your life goals there.
From your list, cross all unnecessary things there and take all that is important to you. This will be your priority list and this is where you’ll focus your life to. It is better if you can list your priorities and place them somewhere visible to you. This way, you’ll always be reminded of it. And when you get distracted again, you can just look at this list again.
There are a lot of ways to categorize these brain dumps. One example is the prioritized to-do list approach mentioned earlier. I also suggest you look into Priority Quadrant.
4. Know your distractions and cut them out.
One of the main reasons why people lose their focus is because they don’t realize they’re indulging their distractions. So, identify what you spend your time on that is not contributing anything to your life.
If you’re not sure if something is a distraction, ask yourself the following:
- Why do I do this?
- How do I feel about doing this?
- What do I get from this?
You can then evaluate if it’s a distraction or not based on your answers.
And if it is a distraction, you now become mindful of it. Look for ways to cut it out. It’s not worth your time.
5. Practice mindfulness and meditation.
It’s easy to lose focus when you’re not mindful of what you’re doing. Being aware and conscious of your decisions and actions can push you to do the better option toward the life you want.
You can dedicate a few minutes a day to practicing mindfulness techniques like meditation, which offer various ways to enhance your ability to refocus
To get you motivated, you can sit and visualize what you want. When you feel like you’re getting distracted or unable to focus, pause and take a deep breath. When you feel overwhelmed, you can shift your focus by meditating.
6. Change your environment.
Your environment reflects a lot on what’s on your mind. If it’s too cluttered, your mind must be too. If you’re used to slacking off in that area, your subconscious won’t be productive there.
When you have tried so hard to refocus but can’t seem to do it, it might be the best time to do something about your environment. You may declutter. Or change the way your furniture is arranged. You may also buy some new pieces to add to your place.
If you want, you can literally change your environment by moving.
Changing up your environment signals your brain that it is time for something new. This can reboot your focus.
7. Do a life reset.
Pushing yourself hard to get back on track might not be beneficial – especially if you have tried your best to do it already. There are just times when you keep trying but to no avail. You then might be demotivated.
If you feel stuck, and no matter what you do there seems to be no progress, you may want to do a life reset. Sometimes, it is better to do it all over again from the start.
Now, this doesn’t mean you have to start from zero again because you now have the experience and lessons from before. You just have to back out a little bit. And when you feel good to go, pick yourself up and move forward again.
- You may want to read this – How to Reset Your Life -10 Steps to Start with.
8. Seek professional help.
When you have tried everything you got and you still can’t refocus, it is time to ask for help. You may talk to a therapist or a coach. You may even ask someone you trust.
Sometimes, we can’t really see how to get ourselves out of a situation. A third party can guide you to see things more clearly and this may help you refocus.
Also, there might be an underlying medical reason why you can’t seem to focus. Talking to a professional can tremendously help.
Remember, you don’t have to be in your worst state to talk to someone. And this doesn’t say anything bad about you. Asking for help is its own kind of strength.
Refocus on the life you want to have.
“Reset. Restart. Refocus. As many times as you need to.”
It is normal to keep going on this cycle. And there’s no shame in this. This just means that you are determined to achieve what you want.
It might be challenging to go through this repeatedly, but it gets easier. And it’s actually a good skill to have. You may develop a strong resiliency!
So, keep doing what you have to. You’ll get there eventually.
Rooting for you,